Let’s be honest: most of us already know how to “eat healthy.”
You’ve read the articles. You know you should get more protein, cut back on sugar, and eat more whole foods. You’ve heard about macros and intermittent fasting, and maybe you’ve even tried the Mediterranean diet. So why is it still so hard to stay consistent? Why do smart, disciplined, health-conscious men find themselves eating frozen pizza over the sink or ordering Uber Eats for the third night in a row?
It’s not because we lack willpower.
It’s because we’ve outsourced one of the most fundamental aspects of being a fully engaged, grounded man: making your own food.
This isn’t another guilt trip about nutrition or hitting your fiber goals. This is about reclaiming your attention, your agency, and your connection to the real world.
You Weren’t Built to Live on Screens
Let’s zoom out for a second.
Most of us spend our waking hours manipulating pixels.
We tap, type, scroll, drag, and click through a world that exists only in cyberspace. Our work, our communication, our entertainment—it’s all digital. Intangible. Disembodied.
And even though it pays the bills or keeps us connected, more and more men are starting to feel the psychic cost of this way of life. We walk around numb. Foggy. Restless. Like we’re living through a pane of glass.
We long for something tactile.
Something solid.
Something real.
Cooking gives you that.
It brings you back into the world of heat, matter, and sensation. You’re not rearranging code or managing inboxes. You’re wielding a knife. You’re cracking eggs. You’re creating transformation through touch, smell, sound, and time. It’s visceral. It’s grounding. It’s the opposite of a Zoom call.
So if you’ve been feeling trapped behind a screen all day, here’s your invitation:
Get out your knives. Start chopping.
Not because it’s “healthier.”
But because it’s real.
And in a world full of fake food, fake urgency, and fake intimacy, real is what you’ve been hungry for all along.
Why You Feel Out of Alignment
The man you aspire to be—strong, reliable, energized, intentional—is often at odds with the modern environment that fragments your focus, erodes your time, and convinces you that you’re too busy to take care of yourself properly.
One of the places this fragmentation shows up most is in the kitchen—or, more precisely, in your avoidance of the kitchen.
Let’s name it: cooking has become optional for modern men. You can survive just fine without ever turning on the stove. In fact, the world is engineered to make it easier not to cook. You can get your meals prepped, your protein bars shipped, and your dinner delivered. You can live a completely “optimized” life without cracking an egg.
But you’ll also feel like something’s missing.
Not just in your body, but in your soul.
The Hidden Cost of Convenience
We’ve been sold the idea that convenience is king. Making life easier is always better. Right?
But in his book The World Beyond Your Head, philosopher and mechanic Matthew Crawford points out that a life stripped of friction is also a life stripped of meaning.
He writes about the importance of skilled engagement—practices that require attention, patience, and a relationship with the real, material world. Think woodworking, motorcycle repair, music… and yes, cooking.
These kinds of practices give us more than competence. They give us identity.
When we cook, we’re not just nourishing our bodies—we’re making contact with reality. We’re slowing down time. We’re reclaiming our ability to focus, to be present, and to take ownership of the small details that shape a life of integrity.
This isn’t about being a “foodie.” It’s about becoming real again—through fire, knives, salt, and heat.
Cooking Is an Act of Self-Alignment
You want to be the kind of man who lives in alignment with his values.
The kind of father, partner, leader, or friend who shows up grounded and energized.
But integrity isn’t just about the big promises—it’s built in the little choices.
Cooking is one of those choices.
When you take time to cook, you’re no longer outsourcing your nourishment to an algorithm. You’re reclaiming authorship. You’re saying: My body matters. My attention matters. The quality of my life matters enough for me to invest effort, not just efficiency.
And ironically, once you start thinking this way, your health does improve—without needing to obsess about it. You start to make better decisions not out of guilt, but out of care. Your meals become an extension of your identity, not a reaction to shame.
Cooking Is the Antidote to Disembodiment
Many of the men I coach want to feel more in control of their eating habits. But what they really want is integration—a sense that their actions match who they know they can be.
Cooking is one of the fastest ways to get there. Why?
Because it transforms you from consumer to creator.
It’s one of the few remaining acts in modern life that:
- Requires skill
- Demands attention
- Offers creative satisfaction
- Produces something you can share with others
When you cook—even just a couple times a week—you step into the mindset of a craftsman. You move from abstraction to embodiment. You learn how to improvise, adapt, and be present. You feel the satisfaction of producing something with your own two hands—and feeding yourself or the people you love.
That’s not weakness. That’s mastery.
Start with a Single Meal
You don’t have to become a gourmet chef.
You don’t have to meal prep a week in advance or buy a Japanese knife set.
You just have to start somewhere real.
Let it be simple, but meaningful.
Cook one dinner this week from scratch.
Use your hands. Chop something. Sauté something.
Eat without your phone. Taste your food.
Let it be a ritual of returning to what’s real and your whole system benefits.
~ Jeff
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